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Sunday, January 18, 2009

Slippery slope, alzheimers and depression

Hi everyone, or anyone who still bothers to log on here! It's been over a year since I last posted and there have been many varied reasons for not doing so.

Firstly, I finally had the op on my shoulder, which altho it's improved the shoulder a lot I am still suffering with the pain and seems there's nothing more I can do about it :o(

Secondly my mum was diagnosed with alzheimers, which came as a huge blow to me as she's been my rock in the last decade and now I'm losing her.

Thirdly, I have lost some people in the last year. The first my very lovely cousin Joanne, who altho i didn't see her much since we all married and had kids will always remember with love and am so sad at her death at the tender age of 32 leaving her 2 beautiful boys without a mum. The second my ex mother in law, who altho I was divorced from her son, still saw me as a daughter in law and was always happy to see me and my mum if we had the time to pop in and visit her. She fought for so long over the years but is finally at peace. My dad's cousin and my mum's friend also died recently and these were also sad blows.

It was my dad's birthday on 16th Jan, he would have been 82. It's his anniversary on 22nd Jan, the day after my birthday, he'll have been dead for 22 years and still the pain of it rips me in two. I cry at the thought of how much my kids missed out not having him as a grandad and how much I know he would have loved all his grandchildren and been so proud of them all. Being a daddy's girl is a curse once he's gone, because there's no one to run to when you need to chat and complain about things. Mum's been great, but she has a less impersonal view of things. me and dad were soul mates thru and thru. And now I'm losing mum and there's a different pain because she's not dead, but she's not mum either.... that sounds harsh, it's not meant to be, but she's becoming more and more like my child and at the moment I feel as though I need to be someone's child to help me cope with what's happening around me!

Fourthly, I am ashamed to say that I have put a great deal of weight back on. Mainly I think because I took the eye off the ball and allowed myself to think that a little bit here and a little bit there wouldn't do any harm, but it has and the little bits became more and more and now I'm here just 2 years after the start of my great weight loss at virtually the same point and feeling really depressed about it and life in general.

I am going to try and get back on the programme because I need to lose weight again, and this time keep it off. I can only hope that those of you who've been through a similar thing can appreciate how I'm feeling right now.

Ok gonna sign off now and come back and edit this when I'm not feelign so emotional. Sorry I've let everyone down with the weight thing, but will try to be an inspiration again, soon.

Friday, October 05, 2007

It's been nearly 9 months

Hi y'all. It's been nearly 9 months and I have lost a total of 119lbs. I have been maintaining my weight for a few weeks as I just felt that 8 mths without food was beginning to become a lil boring.

I have been eating chicken and fish and so far so good. I do want to lose another 2 stone, 28lbs though so I will go back on the diet full time next week. I just want to get to the weight I know I'll be happy with and then maintain it.

It's been a weird Summer, all that rain and lots of stuff going on here that would try the patience of a Saint!

I have a couple of newish pics for you to look at, so hopefully you can see the difference again.



Friday, August 10, 2007

The British Nationals

Well I went to the BN's (an Irish Dancing Comp) 2 weeks ago and it was fabulous!!! The results of the dancing were rubbish but the reactions were GREAT!!!

People I've known for years didn't recognise me and when they realised it WAS me they were completely flabbergasted at how I now look. I have to say that Giselle's, Noreen's, Jan's and AnneMarie's (Liverpool) reactions were so funny...I wish I'd thought to have my camera switched on. AnneMarie thought she was humouring some lunatic, who thought she knew her, at first...then it dawned on her it was me....hahaha, classic moment, if ever there was one

On the Sunday I felt great in my white trousers and my lovely floaty top...I'd put some tan on and a bit of make-up. I surprised myself at how different I was looking...hair, make-up and now a figure lol

Sorry I didn't get any pics now though :o(

Anyway it's 2 weeks later and I've lost another 6lbs which now brings me to a kick in the butt off 8 stone (112 lbs) loss altogether. That's almost my 15 year old daughter!!!

I visited my friend, Pauline, on Wednesday evening and another friend, who I haven't seen for a long time turned up. She didn't realise it was me at first ...... she nearly died when the penny dropped. Both she (Lynne) and Pauline have now decided that I'm an inspiration and have gone on Slimfast...similar to Lipotrim, but you can eat with it, and you make the shakes with milk, not water. The Lipotrim didn't agree with Pauline, when she started it with Margaret and myself in January, so rather than try it again and possibly fail this is the better alternative. I'd just like to say Good Luck girls and I'll be with you every step of the way.

I now want to lose another 2.5 stone (35 lbs) and that'll be me done. I'll still be classed as overweight but I know that at that weight I'll look better than I've looked in over 30 years so I'll be very happy with that.

The next step is to get rid of all the excess skin..... surgery seems to be the only option.... so I'm looking for a nice, single, plastic surgeon who'll sweep me off my feet...because he'll be able to now, and turn me into a goddess..........if anyone knows such a person, you ave my e-mail address lololololol

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Me in Jeans!!!!

Ok. I have NEVER worn jeans in my life before.

When was young girls wore 'trews' or fancy dresses...jeans were for boys only and to be honest I don't even recall my 3 younger brothers owning a pair between them until they reached teenager status.

Sooooooo I thought I'd post a recent pic of me in a pair of JEANS......for the first time EVER, EVER, EVER
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I love them, even though they were given to me by Margaret's daughter...who is also losing weight. They're from NEXT and a size 20!!!!! Yes, they've got wide legs, which I need but they're very big round the waist yayhay :o)

To date I have lost 103lbs. Margaret has reached her goal weight now and is visiting her daughter over in the Isle of Man, for 2 weeks ..... so she'll more than likely have put some back on when she gets back lol.......never mind Margaret you'll soon lose it once I get hold of you :o)

Oh yes, and I've had my hair cut too. New body, new look all round.

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Thought I'd Show You the Difference

Ok I feel confident enough now to post these pics.

The first one is of me when I'd lost nearly 3 stones (42lbs) We were intending to take pics from the very beginning but kept on forgetting, silly us.


This is me at present, having lost an astounding 6.5 stones (91lbs) I still have a fair bit to go to reach my target. Not what the charts say, but what I know I'll be comfortable and happy at.


I'd like to thank all my friends for the support they've shown me along the way. I would never have done this without their help. Most thanks go to Margaret, for sharing the journey with me, my kids for being overwhelmingly helpful and my mum, who, God love her can't quite grasp the concept of me not eating anything....except the odd Sunday roast (4 since January), but has been heard 'bragging' about me to her customers and looks at me with delight and tells me she is very happy for me.

Four of my dancing friends have now signed up to start this diet. I wish them as much success as me and Margaret have had and can't wait to get a pic of the ID Dollies when we're all looking like we belong in the front row of Riverdance hahahaha.

Sunday, May 13, 2007

MISSING CHILD

MADELEINE McCANN
went missing from
Praia Da Luz, Portugal
on
03-05-2007
these pictures show her distinctive right eye
which will help people identify her, should she have had her hair cut and dyed.
Please help in the search for this little girl and pray for her swift return to her family


If you have any information on her whereabouts
contact
CRIMESTOPPERS
0800 555 111
Thankyou for your vigilance
See http://news.sky.com/skynews/home for further information

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Week 17, I Lost More Yay!!

Well I went and got weighed again yesterday....I lost another 3lbs making 70.5lbs in total...to those UK readers that's just over 5 stone.

While I still have a lot more to lose I'm beginning to get compliments and gasps of admiration from those who know me. I've also started to take in some of my clothes....up to 4 inches from the width of some of my trousers.

As I've said my legs are my biggest problem but they're whittling down and are slimmer than they've been in years.

One of my biggest worries is the skin I'll be left with. I've been big for so long my skin has been stretched beyond it's sell by date. I think surgery will be the only way to get rid of it, but that means money, which I just don't have. I'm thinking of applying to go on the UK version of Extreme Makeover....altho I think I'd prefer the US as they seem to get a better job done and more money spent...typical Brits, always do a 'cheap' version! LOL Anyway I still have lots to lose so will think about that when it arises in the future.

Margaret is on maintenance, tho a couple of bereavements while she's been back home have meant she's now trying to manage with no shakes to take. She thinks she'll have to go back on the full plan for a couple of weeks. You know what it's like in Ireland, you get fed every hour of the day, so it's been a real struggle for her. Everyone was amazed at her new look tho' so that was encouraging for her.

Please keep her friend and her brother-in-law in your prayers. Her b-i-l has been ill but her friend was completely out of the blue and very sad all round. However, her friend was as an organ donor able to help 9 very ill people in her death so that is a blessing and a great thing she has done.

I'll keep you updated on both our progress and hopefully, when we're looking different to the photos we took, publish them on here.

Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Secret of My Weight Loss So Far

Thank you Celtic Kelly for congratulating me on my weight loss on DDN.

As you can read in my other posts you will see that I was determined not to hit 50 years of age in Jan 2008 looking like I had for the last 20 yrs...well come on Annie, this is supposed to be an inspiring post so tell the truth!

Aah OK I have been a 'big girl' all my life, apart from my birth when I weighed in at a healthy 6lbs 7oz. I don't know what went awry from then, apart from the fact that parents in the 50's and 60's, because they went short in the War years, seemed to think that you had to clear your plate and eat everything in sight to stay healthy. It was therefore at the age of 15mths that I very gingerly managed to hall myself up onto my bandy legs and start walking! I'll add that this also happened to Rhiannon, however where we differ is that she had managed to inherit the slender legs of her father's and my mother's side of the family, while I had been inflicted by the heavy thighs and legs of the Wainwright Clan...i.e my Dad's family :o(

Anyway as a teenager it was hard to buy 'fashionable' clothes in my size so I resorted to teaching myself how to use a sewing machine, with the help of my older cousin, who used to make the most fabulous wedding dresses. So that explains how I got into sewing.

I tried many diets through the years but had most success with Weight Watchers when I was in my 20's. I lost weight, met my future husband, put weight on, lost it again for the wedding...you know the way it goes. Then started having my first child, Sara. Well to say I piled on the pounds is an understatement!!! I was off the scale, Sara weighed in at 8lbs 9.5oz and I was left with all the excess...I felt sure she was going to be at least 4 stone...what a disappointment! So, left with all that extra weight I was desolate, but used the excuse that it was baby weight, and while pushing the baby round in her pram I could hide behind it and thought that no-one would pass judgement. However, I think the excuse wore off by the time she was 2yrs old and I realised that I needed to do something about it.....then relief, I was expecting again.....no-one would expect me to lose weight now, they'd expect me to put it on.....I managed to keep it level this time and did at least lose some when Niall arrived. By the time he was 22mths I'd had Rhiannon. That was it, kids all done and dusted I knew my weight wasn't going to be able to hide behind pregnancies any more. I had to do something! I became the well know face at WW's for the next heaven only knows how many years, failing every time! :oS I was now approaching 50 rapidly and decided in 2006 that 2007 was going to be the year I changed my life....oh don't be fooled, I'd also said that in 2003/4/5 too!

Somehow though I felt different, more resolved. I'd seen a couple of girls on our local market, where my mum has a stall and I had had one for 10 yrs until 2000. They'd lost half their body weight and I was intrigued. One, Alex had been attending Lighter Life which was an expensive weekly weight loss programme, which I knew I couldn't afford. The other, Michelle was going to her local Pharmacist and following a programme called Lipotrim, similar to Lighter Life but half the price. Only available through GP's, Pharmacies or Hospitals I went to my local Pharmacy and enquired, thinking I'll give it a go and see how it works out.

Well here we are 12 weeks later and I've lost 56lbs and have to say am feeling very good. The diet is a meal replacement type and I have the choice of 3 shakes and a soup. I stick with the shakes as the soup isn't that great. I have 3 a day, 4 pints of water and black coffee with 2 tablet form sweeteners. It seems very extreme I know, but it works and I've never felt healthier in years. My skin is looking good, my hair is healthier...although never really had a problem with that it was always my 'crowning glory'.

A few weeks ago I was at the Cash and Carry with my Mum and it was raining. I looked at the bottom of my trousers and they were all wet...my Mum said 'Oh you'll have to take them up a bit' 'Sod that' I said 'this is the first time these trousers have ever hit the floor, and the fact that they're wet just proves that I've lost weight' They were on my ankle before I started...well actually they looked like they'd been cropped if I'm really truthful lol.

So that's it. I am 4 stone (56lbs) lighter. I still have some way to go before I'm not in the red part of the obesity chart, but my BMI is falling too and that can only be a good thing. As I said in my other posts I cannot believe my resolve and determination, but I'm not complaining at all. I can and will do this and will keep everyone updated as I progress. I will post some before and after pictures when I am reaching my final goal. Hmmm, now that's a problem....unfortunately we forgot to take pictures at the very beginning so it'll have to be from 10 weeks into the diet...you'll have to imagine how much bigger I was before that.

I would like to thank Margaret, my friend who has also been following this plan. She's looking great too and is now only 10lbs from her goal weight. If she hadn't been on it I doubt I'd have stuck to it. She'll be following the Maintenance Plan soon and learning to 're-feed' and finding out which foods are her no go areas. We've both in the last week ate some food, me my Easter roast lunch at my Mum's, which I really enjoyed and realised I was full with less than a third of what I would usually eat on such an occasion. Margaret had a party on Friday, and after helping prepare the food was very good and limited herself to some chicken and a small bowl of curry. My weight loss wasn't as big this week, but enough to get me to the 56lb mark and Margaret will probably have a smaller weight loss on Wednesday, but it just proved to us that we could eat and not go mad. So 're-feeding', when the time comes, is probably going to be less daunting than we were expecting

If anyone want s to e-mail me and ask anymore questions, please feel free.

Originally posted on www.feisanne.blogspot.com on 15-04-07

Update on the Weight Loss

I'm going into the 13th week of my diet today and so far I've lost 4 stones (56lbs). I'm feeling really good and healthy, but still have some way to go.

My friend, Margaret, who's following the same diet, has lost 3.5 stones (49lbs) and is looking great!

I've had to alter a lot of my clothes and buy a couple of new tops. Not buying too much as I'll have to buy more when I reach my target.

To anyone who says they have 'no willpower' meet Mrs Willpowerless. I have been on every diet under the sun....Weight Watchers was the only one that ever worked, but even last year I found that tough going.

I just can't explain what's happened to me I am so resolved and am determined to succeed. So don't say you can't, the fact is you're really not ready yet.

I'll post again in a couple of weeks and let you know how I'm doing.


Originally posted on www.feisanne.blogspot.com on 11-04-07

My New Year Resolution

Ok so remember my Incoherent Ramblings on my Dress Blog.....I promised to stop procrastinating and lose weight? Well I have to date lost 33.5lbs and am feeling so positive I'm amazing myself.

I am determined to reach my 50th birthday in just under a years time looking fit and healthy, and if this carries on then I shall reach my goal.

My trusty helper, Margaret, is also losing weight with me, so we're a kind of 'Mutual Appreciation Society' between us :o) She has a lot less to lose than me tho' but I'm sure that seeing her get to her goal sooner than me will spur me on.

The hardest part was that I, very stupidly started this diet on Thursday 18th Jan, just 3 days before my birthday!!! Sooooo on that day I was feeling very miserable, ok yeh the added year didn't exactly help, but the thoughts of no food and just some 'shakes' wasn't the best way to spend a birthday! I actually cried for some of it :oS Anyway I got over that hurdle, just by thinking that next year I would be looking and feeling good and be, hopefully at least 4 dress sizes smaller. Now let's get it right friends, I am not looking to be a size 0, haha even the thought sends me into manic laughter, but to be a UK size 16/18 would be absolutely fabulous for me. I carry a lot of weight on my butt and legs and hey presto, guess where it's going from first? Yup my face!! No not really, my butt and legs!!!!

Wow I am just so pleased with my not so little self. My trousers are now actually longer than they were, I can pull them out and have approx 3 inches to spare at the sides. You have to appreciate that these trousers weren't very flattering and I always looked as tho' I'd been poured into them, but they were comfy and warm. So now, they're even more comfy. I bought myself a top last week, which was a size down than I'd normally buy. I don't want to spend too much money on a new wardrobe yet, as I will probably lose more weight and they'll become useless, so I'm altering things and feeling positive about more than just my weight.

I've even managed to co-ordinate the painting of my bathroom...the smallest room, literally, in the house....the kids, Rhi and Niall were eager to do it during their half term, so as I was busy sewing I thought..."Why not?" There were times, throughout that week that I thought " Why did I say yes?" but it all worked out and altho' it's not fantastic, it's much better than it was and the kids, because they did it seem to be keeping it tidier now. Hmmmm now there's another thought, let them do the whole house and this could be beneficial to us all :oD

Anyway, I'll let you know how my weight and my house re-vamp progresses. I may even try to post some pics, of the house, not me lol...Ohhh no, certainly not me, I don't like having my pic taken I'm afraid.

Anyone who is thinking of losing weight...remember, it will be to YOUR benefit in the end. Do it for YOU, no-one else. And don't do it if you're already a size 10/12....you're already looking good, and any excess will go with a little bit of exercise.

Originally posted on www.feisanne.blogspot.com on 03-03-07